VICTIM MENTALITY CHECK LIST
Anyone who experiences any of the following has a victim mentality. This is to help you see the truth that makes you free, not bring you under any guilt or condemnation. If it does, refer to that teaching!
- Needs to justify self to others
- Needs to prove they are OK
- Needs to be understood at all costs
- Complains about everything
- Never really satisfied, finds something wrong
- Looks for other people's mistakes
- Sets on taking care of themselves but lets people know they are all alone
- Making sure everyone around them thinks well of them
- Whatever others do for them, it's never quite enough
- Expects out of people what they "think" they deserve (an "everyone owes me" mentality)
- Low self-esteem and self-image
- High self-image
- Self-pity (no one understands and their plight is the worse of all)
- Their situation is unique
- Compares their sufferings to others - thinking no one's is worse than theirs
- If some one never went through their exact situation, they won't listen to counsel
- Self-hatred, self-conflict, guilt and shame
- Feeling worthless and insecure
- Needy (People avoid them because after visiting with them they feel drained.)
- Pushes away possible relationships - clinging and controlling (as with needy)
- Wants to tell their whole story, looking for sympathy and pity
- Blaming others - not taking responsibility - because after all "I'm the victim"
- Self-righteousness, pride and arrogance- sometimes religiosity
- Idolatry (putting one's feelings above everyone elses)
- Cannot receive love
- Gives love conditionally (with self in mind)
- Has self on their mind all the time, "What about me"
- Fear of letting others get ahead of them
- Talkative
- Looks for approving glances
- Everything that happens is about them (i.e. when they walk into a room, they think everyone was just talking about them)
- Turns everything inward. "Takes things personally."
- Wants to be justified and validates their feelings
- Wants everyone to know how much they have been hurt - tells their story to anyone who will listen
- Defensive and abrupt
- Very suspicious - thinking people are out to et them
- Talks about their "good deeds