ABANDONMENT AND REJECTION
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Abandonment and Rejection are wide spread in America today, and many don't even know they have fallen victim to these. While many others know exactly what this means and have lived with it, yet not really knowing how to get out of it. So for both instances, I believe this segment of teaching is going to help you, just as it did me when God set me free. For more on this topic, pick up my pocket book called "Abandonment and Rejection" a road too often traveled. It's one of the most sought out books in our library! It's because most of the people I minister too has issues with abandonment and rejection! Even Christians. We need to get a handle on this so we are free and others are free. Because as long as we suffer in this, no one is free!!
It has taken me personally a number of years to come to knowledge about Abandonment and Rejection, and only now seven years later (January 2005) that I am able to really conduct a teaching on it. All of the sessions that I provide on this website, and all of the teachings I do in ministry is done after I've seen these principles become real in my own life. That gives me a deeper understanding of the issue so that I can teach with conviction and hope to the hearer.
Let me start with the reason I teach on these two together. I put Abandonment and Rejection together because I realized that they both work hand-in-hand. Many years (the past seven) I've been dealing with rejection. I knew I was feeling rejection almost every day. I tried not to feel rejected, I've been ministered on the lines of rejection, and I even thought I was completely free, then to only realize I wasn't. You know what I mean, something would happen, and I would "feel" that pain of rejection again only to have to start over figuring out what my deal is. I don't need to "figure it out" any longer.
This is where I am today, I don't need to "try" anymore to be free, I am. That is why I feel I can teach on this subject with some clarity and truth. I had to stop working so hard on rejection, because I was just going around in circles. I had to first deal with abandonment.
Let's first look up the words in the Webster's Dictionary:
Abandonment: From the word Abandon which means: To forsake entirely; as to abandon a hopeless enterprise. To renounce and forsake; to leave with a view never to return; to desert as lost or desperate. (Synonyms: desert, forsake,leave, quit, forego, give up, take leave of. Evacuate) Abandonment then means: "A total desertion; the state of being forsaken."
Rejection: From the word Reject which means: To throw away as anything uselessness or vile; to cast off, to refuse to grant, to refuse to accept. Rejection then means: The act of throwing away, the act of casting off or forsaking, refusal to accept or grant.
From these definitions, can you identify which one you have? Which one seems to be stronger in your life?
Let's go a little deeper on this subject. I'll use my life as an example, since I had to see my own issues first in order to be healed.
Below lists some manifestations of when someone has been abandoned somewhere in life. Take a moment to reflect on each and every one of these. Remember, the first step to healing is to "recognize."
Here are some high tell signs that you have the "spirit of abandonment" in your life:
Abandonment and Rejection are wide spread in America today, and many don't even know they have fallen victim to these. While many others know exactly what this means and have lived with it, yet not really knowing how to get out of it. So for both instances, I believe this segment of teaching is going to help you, just as it did me when God set me free. For more on this topic, pick up my pocket book called "Abandonment and Rejection" a road too often traveled. It's one of the most sought out books in our library! It's because most of the people I minister too has issues with abandonment and rejection! Even Christians. We need to get a handle on this so we are free and others are free. Because as long as we suffer in this, no one is free!!
It has taken me personally a number of years to come to knowledge about Abandonment and Rejection, and only now seven years later (January 2005) that I am able to really conduct a teaching on it. All of the sessions that I provide on this website, and all of the teachings I do in ministry is done after I've seen these principles become real in my own life. That gives me a deeper understanding of the issue so that I can teach with conviction and hope to the hearer.
Let me start with the reason I teach on these two together. I put Abandonment and Rejection together because I realized that they both work hand-in-hand. Many years (the past seven) I've been dealing with rejection. I knew I was feeling rejection almost every day. I tried not to feel rejected, I've been ministered on the lines of rejection, and I even thought I was completely free, then to only realize I wasn't. You know what I mean, something would happen, and I would "feel" that pain of rejection again only to have to start over figuring out what my deal is. I don't need to "figure it out" any longer.
This is where I am today, I don't need to "try" anymore to be free, I am. That is why I feel I can teach on this subject with some clarity and truth. I had to stop working so hard on rejection, because I was just going around in circles. I had to first deal with abandonment.
Let's first look up the words in the Webster's Dictionary:
Abandonment: From the word Abandon which means: To forsake entirely; as to abandon a hopeless enterprise. To renounce and forsake; to leave with a view never to return; to desert as lost or desperate. (Synonyms: desert, forsake,leave, quit, forego, give up, take leave of. Evacuate) Abandonment then means: "A total desertion; the state of being forsaken."
Rejection: From the word Reject which means: To throw away as anything uselessness or vile; to cast off, to refuse to grant, to refuse to accept. Rejection then means: The act of throwing away, the act of casting off or forsaking, refusal to accept or grant.
From these definitions, can you identify which one you have? Which one seems to be stronger in your life?
Let's go a little deeper on this subject. I'll use my life as an example, since I had to see my own issues first in order to be healed.
Below lists some manifestations of when someone has been abandoned somewhere in life. Take a moment to reflect on each and every one of these. Remember, the first step to healing is to "recognize."
Here are some high tell signs that you have the "spirit of abandonment" in your life:
- Being ignored by someone you love
- Left alone, no one to help, especially by those whom should love you
- Having to take care of yourself
- Not able to trust anyone, including God
- Thoughts of having been left alone by God
- Having been left by a parent or guardian
- Having been adopted
- Having been made fun of by peers, children, family members
- Having been left to fin for yourself by friends, co-workers, and those of authority
- Having been a scape-goat
- Feeling that you don't belong
- Feelings of unworthiness and no value
- Feelings of uselessness
- Feelings of not being loved and accepted
- Feeling that you aren't important, nor your needs
- Feeling that no matter what you do, it's not good enough
- Fear of man
- Perfectionist
- Driven to perform to be loved